It was so hard to imagine exactly what this parenting journey was going to feel like before I became one. I’ll admit I was naive to all of the challenges that can arise (thanks to my childlike optimism), but in the same token I am marveled by all of the solutions that reveal themselves.
Life was once somewhat predictable and now it is freshly unfolding right before my very (sometimes tired) eyes. Which I’m finding certainly makes each day even more interesting and fun! Like the other parents I know, I too feel there are no words to pin point this exuberant feeling of love!
I’ll say this, as magical as parenthood is I still feel that not enough people talk about the nitty gritty, such as lack of libido postpartum and resentment that surfaces from time-to-time, nor do we rarely ever hear about what intimacy really looks like in a relationship as new parents. Perhaps because like all things in parenthood each family finds a recipe that works for them and much like diets no one way works for all. What’s worked for us, you ask? A lot of communication, deep listening and understanding along with alone time to get projects done, time for reflection and most importantly self-care.
I am beyond grateful to have an active partner to share this parenting trip with. My admiration for single parents grows with every moment I am left alone with Nova. Parenthood is by far the hardest and most rewarding work I’ve ever done! My circle of amazing people and love has grown immensely and I am still in awe over how much life comes along with the birthing of one. When I was pregnant I got excited just thinking about the new connections we would make as a family, envisioning my human family growing even more into one big loving community. In fact it is this very expansion of love and community that has carried & lifted my family and I up during times of confusion, play, hardships and celebration.
I feel pushed to my limits in this role sometimes on the verge of snapping, breaking, bruising, bleeding or crying… I’ll admit I too feel like a baby, except I have to be the grown up now. I can and need to ask for help and I have to trust that all will be okay! I have to communicate effectively with my partner and listen deeply to my family in order to thrive. I’ll admit that there are moments that I reminisce on the freedom that once was my pre-baby life and remind my self how temporary and precious these moments are now. This is where being present reveals all of the magic in each fleeting moment.
As my love grows deeper every day for this precious life I have been chosen to nurture, I am grateful. Even though it’s harder to make or take the time to practice meditation, gratitude, yoga and appreciation for this blessed life, I know the love I am sharing, creating and receiving is all that really matters. I am humbled by my flaws as a parent, drawing strength to be better and do better by the reflection of my beloveds.
It is with great joy in my heart that I celebrate my sweet baby Nova and the miracles that he naturally brings into my life simply by being Nova Bunny, Shoopy-Dooppy, Choco-loco Thevenot! Nobody could have ever prepared me for just how sweet it feels being your mama, J’adore!
Happy first year on Earth baby Nova and happy first year to my beloved partner and Papa extraordinaire Alex!
Now onto the cake: For the crepe layers I used pure panty pancake mix and substitute the eggs with a ripened banana and a chia egg. For the milk I use coconut and for the oil I use flax oil.
For the creme in between the crepe layers I made a filling using 2 bananas, 1 coconut meat, 1 tsp vanilla, 1 tbsp coconut oil and pulsed all of these ingredients in a food processor or blender until smooth.
Spread cream in between each crepe layer and on the final layer dust cacao powder on top of cake. Garnish with chopped dates and hazelnuts, et viola!