There is no doubt about it, being a mom (human really) is an extraordinary gift, privilege and right of passage. I suppose with the greatest gift, certainly comes a tremendous amount of responsibility, lack of quality sleep, and a whole bag of grand and sometimes very heavy emotions. It would be an understatement to call motherhood a job, as it is has completely taken over and become my current state of being, which unlike a job is impossible to vacate from.
Perhaps I feel this way because Nova caught a cold this week, one of the first that’s managed to run its full course since he was a newborn. Suddenly, I was faced with caring for a newborn again with around the clock nursing, snot and mucus on everything we owned, constant holding, cleaning, prepping, doing, moving and barely resting. Luckily it was just a cold and we’ve so far managed to avoid catching it.
Funny how I forgot just how demanding the new-born phase was until this week gave me the reminder crash course. Which was a great confirmation to me that I am in no way mentally, physically, spiritually, nor emotionally ready to have another child. Perhaps this cold was here to help me cleanse that idea from my system. Noted, thank you cold, now if you could please pack up your tissues and go.
I want to honestly say that mom life is hard and at times very hard.Thank goodness for an amazing partner by my side to share this journey, blessing and responsibility with. Surely there is more love, an overabundance of cute and sweet moments, a connection unlike any other, and a feeling of purpose that all comes along with this magnificent role but it is in no way easy. Now that we’ve got the disclaimer aside, I feel it’s only fair to provide an antidote when times get a little tough.
To help pull myself out of a funk from pure exhaustion, oncoming monthly cycle, and a powerful full moon along with the already noted sick toddler all coming at me at once. I jotted down some “self soothing techniques” that helped me cope and lift my spirits back up to a place I affectionately call ohmsweetohm.
I hope these tried and true tips that lift me up can help you out in a time of need.
Things I do when life (as a mom) feels overwhelming:
Talk with a mom friend or call your mother. Other moms can totally relate and can make you feel like you’re not alone and not crazy for feeling the way you do. It’s normal to feel the highs and lows of the mothership journey.
Journal about the feelings- can’t sleep? Grab a pen let the worries flow from your mind onto paper and allow spirit to move your pen for you. I always find my voice guiding me through challenging and anxious thoughts.
Meditate- tune in, by sitting in silence. Find comfort and joy in being alone with yourself.
Exercise- sweat and move stagnant thoughts and energy. Make space for happier feelings and thoughts!
Eat healthfuly- nourish yourself. Clean foods are linked to clean thoughts. Is there anything in your healthy eating routine that can be cleaned up for a clenaer conscience?
Have a treat- pizza, ice cream, pie, chocolate, wine, go easy on yourself and these treats but do give in to a little foodie pleasure. I like to stay conscious of the fact that the emotions I’m feeling may or may not be prompting certain food choices. Check in with yourself to ensure your emotions aren’t taking you down a path of emotional eating.
Get outisde- sunshine always helps as well as fresh air. Take deep breaths, feel the sun on your skin. Soak in the suns rays reminding yourself that you are this maginifcent light!
Go for a hike-let nature overwhelm you with peace, serenity, beauty and wonder!
Help someone else – listen to a friend in need of an ear, smile at a stranger, do that kind thing you would appreciate if someone did for you.
Make a meal or bake something healthy, bonus is that you can share these treats with others which always helps make me feel better.
Garden- dig in the dirt, discover new depth of your own existence or plant new seeds of hope and intention or harvest the delicious rewards from all of your work.
Take a yoga class- breathe, sweat and let everything go while solely nurturing yourself for the duration of the class. If you can’t leave for a class, try yoga at home even if said sick baby is attached to your breast.
Communicate with a partner and loved ones about feelings and ask for support. We all need someone to lean on!
Drink lots of comofrting teas- they’re kind of like a warm and sensual hug. I especially love when the tea bag has words of wisdom printed on the tag!
Take immunity tinctures and probiotics to keep from getting sick -the last thing you need when you’re not feeling likeyourself is to get sick.
A shower or bathe- let the water relax and cleanse your body and mind. Or at the very least it helps get the snot out of your hair.
Stay hydrated to avoid even more fatigue, headaches or other craptastic symptoms that can come when forgetting to take care of yourself.
Take a solo walk or bike ride around the neighborhood, breathe and listen to the sounds around you.
Listen to and purchase a new song or album that reaffirms and uplifts your spirit.
Talk to yourself the same way you’d talk to a dear friend. Practice being your own best friend and notice how uplifted you become. Often times we’re harder on ourselves yet so supportive and comforting to friends, we must stop this pattern and always choose to be our own best friend, especially when communicating to ourselves.
I love you,
P.S. If you’ve found this post to be helpful please share. Far too many of us suffer alone or silently. Together we can shine a light on our hard feelings transforming the dark into light.
Also, I’d love to hear in the comments, what works for you? It’s an honor to have your wisdom and heart in this community and I look forward to learning from you.